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Setting Boundaries: The Key to Healthy Relationships

For years, I felt like a human chameleon, constantly bending and molding myself to please others. My schedule was overloaded, my emotions were a rollercoaster, and resentment built up with each “yes” I uttered when my true answer was a firm “no.” Only when I began to understand the power of healthy boundaries did I reclaim my sanity and build fulfilling relationships with others.


What are Boundaries & Why Do They Matter?


Think of boundaries as the imaginary lines that define your comfort zones. They encompass your physical, emotional, and mental space and determine how others can treat you and what you’re willing to tolerate.


 Healthy boundaries are essential for:


  • Self-Respect: Setting boundaries signals to yourself and others what you value and won’t compromise on.

  • Stress Reduction: Clear boundaries prevent you from overextending yourself and taking on the burdens of others.

  • Improved Relationships: Boundaries foster mutual respect and prevent misunderstandings and resentment.



Identifying Your Boundaries


  • Physical Boundaries: Reflect on how comfortable you are with physical touch, how much personal space you need, and your preferences regarding belongings and privacy.


  • Emotional Boundaries: Consider what topics are off-limits, how you deal with criticism, and your need for emotional space.


  • Mental Boundaries: Think about your work-life balance, ability to say “no,” and tolerance for interruptions and distractions.


Communicating Your Boundaries


  • Be Clear and Direct: Avoid vague statements or hints. Be specific about what you need and want.

  • Use “I” Statements: Frame your boundaries from your perspective (“I feel uncomfortable when…”); this avoids judgment or blame.

  • Be Assertive but Respectful: Maintain a calm and confident demeanour, without apologising for your needs


Dealing with Resistance


  • Not everyone will happily respect your boundaries initially. Here’s how to handle pushback:

  • Reiterate Your Boundary: Repeat your statement respectfully.

  • Set Consequences: Explain what will happen if your boundary is violated.

  • Don’t Take it Personally: Boundary-pushing often reflects another’s issues, not yours.

  • Distance Yourself: If someone disrespects you consistently, limit contact as needed.

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